Showing posts with label loneliness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label loneliness. Show all posts

Thursday, September 25, 2014

Ted Mosby, Architect?


“Kids, this is the story of how I met your mother.”

I want there to be a day where my life comes to that, where my husband sits our kids down and we tell them the story of how we met.

The show How I Met Your Mother has been off the air for about half a year now (I think; this past year has been a big blur, and sometimes I can’t really tell where one event began and another ended). But I found it on Amazon Prime. All but the last season, but that is beside the point. So I rewatched the show. And I have to say, I connect with Ted so much more now that I’m an adult working in a big city with real bills and a partial real life.

Something really bothered me about the show though. It made love and life look so simple! I mean, Marshall was in law school, then had an internship, and then three other jobs. I mean, sure he was unemployed and sat around with no pants, but it seemed like the moment he was down on his luck, his life turned around and he got a job! Wait, I’m getting off topic. Love and life. Stick to the topic, Charlotte. Ok, what I wanted to get at was the fact that this show made dating look so easy. Am I doing it wrong then? Should I be getting hit on all the time, like Robin? Or should guys been staring at me as I walk by them and just have to stop to get my number? Should I be spending every night in a bar? Should I find a bar by my job, and get home late at night, losing sleep and productivity, just to find a date that will go nowhere after the first date?

I can’t even say I’m like Ted in his desperate attempt to find love and happiness in a world full of happy couples. I’m like Randy (for those of you that know who I’m talking about, I’m proud of you and thank you for knowing. For those of you who don’t, I’d explain, but I don’t want to spend the time telling you something you could just google. Here I’ll even help, just post this into google: randy how I met your mother). I honestly just want to fit in and have a legendary night without it being ruined by my stupid talking. Damn. I am pathetic.

I know it takes time and effort to find someone and work on relationships. But I feel like the universe is working against me on purpose. I believe in superstitions, did I do something to piss off the gods/a sentient being/ whatever is in charge of the universe? Is there a superstition that I broke that has to do with my love life? If there is and I broke it, shouldn’t it not count because I didn’t know about it?

That’s it for this post. Until next time – I’m Charlotte Carmichael and thanks for reading.

Tuesday, June 17, 2014

The Catcher in Our Stars


I used to find companionship in books. I used to be transported into new worlds and lived in them while the world around me crumbled into the meaningless, depressing every day real world. Now, I can follow the characters, I can read their stories, but I don’t feel the same as I used to. I have come to realize that I cannot find my way to the fake worlds of Harry Potter, Katniss Everdeen, Holden Caulfield, Fitzchivalry Farseer. I am merely a reader, a watcher, seeing people’s lives unfold before me.

The same thing happens in real life. I am merely a pawn in everyone else’s game. I seem to be a secondary character in everyone else’s story, including my own. We live in a world where all anyone ever cares about is getting ahead and showing off, while I sit in the shadows and watch. I see relationships get made and flourish, while my own love life is a stagnant as a puddle. There is no motion to how I move, even though there seems to be a repeating ebb and flow of people, life around me.

Is it too much to ask for if I want the guy on the train to notice my book and ask if it is good? Is it a real predicament if I want someone to notice the braid in my hair and how much time it might have taken me to do it, or notice I have a pink sweater on and maybe it looks good with the red lipstick?

I know things don’t get handed to you, because “the world is not a wish-granting factory.” But just once I’d like to have something to say in a conversation that doesn’t start when someone else is the main speaker and I’m just the listener.

It seems to be a sore spot with me, this topic of being alone and wanting to be heard. I might end up talking about this quite a bit, and I’m sorry in advance.

Well, that’s it for this post. Until next time- I’m Charlotte Carmichael, and thanks for reading.